My trip to the grocery store today got me thinking [I know....scary].
I was asked how I was ["How are you today?"] said, "good, how are you?". But I wasn't ready for the reply. . . . "Not good, rough day, wish I could go home and do nothing."
Whoa?! What the heck? Who said he could actually tell me how his day REALLY was going? Ever notice how weird it is when someone actually says how they truly are feeling?
I thought it was awesome.
smiling, chit-chatting. We exchange pleasantries everywhere from the grocery store to Starbucks. We dish up so called meaningless babble and empathy in our social circles. Countless conversations pass over dinner tables and office desks and customer service counters daily. They are a natural occurrence in human life, and we should have them down pat.
So why is it that we typically avoid what we really want to express.
Whether it be with a hostile loved one or a distant relationship, sometimes its easier to pretend that everything's okay with the "Status Quo", all the while the little crack fed hamster in our brain is spinning circles over the "shouldas-couldas-wouldas".
I guessing because sometimes verbalizing that one phrase, starting that one conversation has the potential for ripping open the floodgates of heartache, of aggression, possibly of reality.
I'm thinking this is one of the biggest challenges relationships pose.
Whether romantic or professional in nature - one based on blood or just shared experiences - those ties that bind can be fragile, and a seemingly innocent inquiry or confession can tear those bonds apart like a clothing designers' seam ripper.
Good or bad, it takes pure guts to put your emotions on the table. But that confrontation or confession can have an outcome that wreaks havoc inside you. Your courage could very well be rewarded with disappointment and regret.
So is it true what they say - - - sometimes ignorance really is bliss ? ?